Couples With Julia

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples 

  • Do you still love your partner but can’t remember how to communicate without having the same arguments again and again?
  • Does it feel as though the bond between you and your partner has faded?
  • Do you find that you avoid opening up to your partner because you just don’t feel that they hear what you have to say?
  • Do you feel alone in your relationship or that your partner doesn’t care about you the way they used to?

If you answer yes to any of these questions, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples can help you and your partner change negative patterns for good.  Relationships often start with an intense connection but over time the spark that initially attracted you to each other can fade or disappear and often you feel the connection to your partner goes with it.  EFT offers a way for couples of all ages to learn how to communicate in ways that bring you closer together by helping you understand negative patterns of communicating, allowing each of you to express thoughts and fears in safe and respectful ways and finally, helping couples to feel more bonded and close again, or perhaps closer than ever before.

Strengthen your bond as a couple, feel more connected and rediscover the purpose of your relationship

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term approach to helping distressed couples find their way back to a loving and close relationship. The process helps you to let your guard down and feel safe with your partner, opening the door for intimacy and re-connection to take place. Although our natural instinct is to move towards each other, we tend to override it when we feel upset in our relationship, usually based on things that happened previously in this relationship or somewhere in our past. Fearful of our emotional response, we turn away as a means of protecting ourselves. Emotionally Focused Therapy supports couples to reconnect with this natural instinct of closeness and attachment. EFT can be one of the quickest and easiest ways to go to the core of a couple’s distress patterns. Because it is an approach that supports both of you, many couples find it an effective way to get from distant or gridlocked conflict, towards a space where partners can rediscover a secure and loving bond.

Emotionally Focused Therapy was developed by leading Canadian psychologists, Dr. Susan Johnson and Dr. Leslie Greenberg. To fully benefit the full course of therapy usually takes 12 to 30 sessions, as couples are guided through the following process of therapy:

Stage One involves looking at the negative or non-helpful cycle you are in. Understanding this current cycle and the underlying emotions helps identify the roadblocks hindering the desire to feel closer to each other.

Stage Two is about reconnecting, learning to accept your experience as well as your partner’s, getting to discover aspects of yourself, and learning new ways of interacting with one another.

Stage Three consolidates your new way of being together and explores new solutions to your old patterns. You are able to apply these new skills to moving toward each other.

Read more about Emotionally Focused Therapy here

If you are looking to strengthen your bond and feel more connected as a couple, this may be the time for you to try some EFT sessions, and discuss how it could bring communication and connection back into your relationship. Please call us for a complementary 20-minute consultation at (226) 230-3433 .

I look forward to speaking with you!


275 10th Street
Hanover, ON N4N1P1
(226) 230-3433

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